Resentment, that is, unforgiveness is a silent destroyer of many Christian’s lives. We have been told many times from the pulpit to forgive others when they trespass against us or when people do us wrong. How can a person possibly just forgive someone for committing an offense without retaliation? To the natural mind that seems impossible. After all doesn’t the Bible teach an eye for an eye? We are also taught in church that God won’t forgive us if we don’t forgive those who wronged us. Ministers even tell us that to forgive is to forget!
If unforgiveness is so dangerous and I know it then why is it so hard for me to forgive? The forgive and forget teaching doesn’t work because I cannot erase the memory in my brain. As soon as I see THAT person or THAT thing, my emotions becomes active with animosity, resentment and pain. I can’t forget so I can’t forgive—or can I?